An example from my life.
I had a 7:30 AM free class scheduled at an Apple Store quite far from my apartment.
I am not a morning person.
PER SE
I am ESPECIALLY not a morning person after going on a several day trip during which my sleep schedule was disturbed.
So I asked my friend who is two hours ahead of me to call me at 6:30.
She did.
I had a wake-up call.
But then I fell asleep again.
I woke up at 7:20.
AND,
...did not frantically run out the door, did not speed, did not finally arrive at Apple half-way through the class... did not wonder what the second half of the class was about due to having missed the first half...
...instead, I accepted reality...at last...
...I then went back for another hour of sleep...
...and then I kept doing searches for EVENING classes at Apple, having realized that I am just not a morning person, and no wake-up calls would ever change it, nor is always being rushed trying to make morning appointments a good thing...
...I finally found a 7PM class... cool - right after work...
So from now on, I will try my best to simply avoid trying to make myself up and perky at 6:30 AM infrequently when a such a need arises...
...by simply not creating such needs in the first place.
Not always possible - think flights - but at least for something as optional as a class at Apple, I should have known better than STRESS myself with an early morning appt.
How is that connected to self esteem?
Well, my self esteem can suffer each time I fail in the morning, so to the extent that not scheduling things in the mornings would lead to fewer failures, which, in turn, would not impact my self esteem negatively - there is a connection.
Just accept reality without trying to pretend that miracles could happen.
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