What you're suggesting sounds very confused. Crises arising from within the therapy may be allowed to "ripen" for a therapeutic purpose; but no T I'm aware of would ever do anything to encourage a crisis to develop outside of the therapy--but nor would they necessarily be right to become directly involved.

If you're referring to the incident I think you're refering to, that sounds like a "crisis" ("" because what I know of it didn't seem objectively to rise to the level of crisis) outside of therapy--so, no, I don't think your T "allowed" it to happen, nor refused to get involved for any manipulative purpose.