I felt loved by both parents, despite my dad's flaws and addictions. My family did always have high moral and academic standards. On too of that, my nature is to be a perfectionist. So, even though my family was not overtly hard on me, I never felt quite good enough and was always hard on myself.

I do feel attached to my T. I do not feel like just a paycheck to her. With my first two Ts, I wouldn't say I felt like a paycheck per se, but it was definitely different. I did not click with them, and it felt too business-like and not personal enough.

It is a good and interesting theory and is probably true for many or some some but not all. Thanks for the thread!