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Old Aug 03, 2013, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by granitemanos View Post
I would like to know why im upset about my wife and her 6and half yr old son showering together.
It does seem to cross some boundaries there. Most children, outgrow that type of attachment to their parents, usually before the age of 5, if not younger.

I am raising three boys, as a single mom, and even on the off chance, they walk in on me, in my bedroom changing, I don't make a mountain out of a molehill, at the same time, I turn away, so the worst they may see, is my derriere, which, we all have that. And then, I ask they give me back my privacy, to finish changing.

I find, I'm raising boys with a healthy sense of self, in that regard. They are capable of bathing themselves, sometimes where my younger two, are still on the younger spectrum, I help with hair washing. And then, they have the tub, to themselves, within earshot, of course.

I have a 6.5 year old son, myself. He's my youngest. Showering, together stopped around 3/4 years old. I don't want, their level of awareness, to include an 'image' of my body, if that makes sense?

Hope you, find a way to resolve, your own discomfort. Perhaps, establishing a level of boundaries surrounding privacy?
Thanks for this!
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