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Originally Posted by Yoda
I wouldn't be so sure about that. You probably can't close it by phone if that is what you mean but you don't need both people whose names are on the account to be present at the bank to close it. (in my experience)
In 2000 abusive BF threatened my and my sisters'/mom's life so besides getting a restraining order I went to the credit union where the BF and I shared a checking account. I closed the account and opened one in my name only.
Start making photocopies of every financial document you can get your hands on while you are still living together.
I think your starting point should be to get advice from an attorney including an estimate of costs and what is an acceptable payment plan.
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OMG, that sucks! I'll have to hope that never happens! I'll just have to not take anything out of the account for now w/o asking him, ugh! If I do end up leaving him, I'll be smart and wait until there is a lot of money in the account like there is now and I'll end up withdrawing most of what's in there, ha! I'll claim in court that he did threaten to leave me with nothing and that I have no savings and on one to help me out financially with the cost of legal fees and living expenses.
I'm sure that even the hardest judge would understand that. I'm soo sorry to hear about your past relationship with your abusive bf! That's good that you got away from him! Yikes! As for getting copies of financial statements, some of them will be easy to get copies of since his office at home is messy, but then there are other papers that I have no access to. I know nothing about our finances aside the fact that he still owes the IRS quite a bit of money and that he only made a $5000 payment to them recently, or so he said. So he still owes them $5000 from last year. From this year, 2013, it's $47,000.
I'll do things one step at a time. I'll first get counseling and advice as well as job training at a domestic violence center and then I'll have gather what information that I need including secretly taped phone recordings to prove how bad he is. I know that it won't be admissible in court, but once the counselors and lawyer hears it, they'll be able to hear for themselves how bad he really is and be able to help advise me more.
Thanks again for all your help! I'm glad that you had the courage to leave such a horrible person!
Angie