I'm particularly concerned with your comment that he's threatening you. No one should be put thru that. Yes, I agree with the previous comments regarding your remarkable and successful weightloss, but if your H is emotionally abusive and is also threatening you, then you need to leave asap. There are shelters available, I'm sure, in your area...you should call one immediately.

Perhaps your leaving for your own survival will be the catalyst for him to realize what his drinking is doing to his marriage, perhaps not. But it isn't up to you to save him. It is up to you to save YOU.

You're in my prayers...be well...