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Originally Posted by Sadendings
Another thought, I think Hamster-Bamster had a good suggestion to "try it" and see if you like it. You said yourself that emotionally you two are like a "house on fire"! That's pretty exciting to me. When you kiss someone you're emotionally attracted to, it can definitely ignite flames you may never know you had. It may be a "different" kind of love for you.
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To pick up on this thought...
...everywhere I read that sexuality is fluid as in "a continuum between gay and straight". I personally do not belong on the continuum, because much as I try to get attracted to women "that way", I cannot. But I can see a different continuum, a different type of fluidity in which I can believe because I have experienced it personally. I think Sadendings (a lovely name... count me in on sad endings as well
...) pointed you in that direction. So OK you are not attracted "that way" - you probably mean that you, say, do not get hard when you think of her... but have you tried kissing her - MAYBE it would ignite flames... as Sad... wrote "you may never know you had" (well said! beautifully put!). The thing is, unless you try and allow yourself to just feel whatever you feel, being open and not labeling/defining what you might feel before you feel.. not pre-defining anything... and then you may see...
Again, as long as she knows what the two of you are doing... and is not being mis-led (but you won't mislead her since as I.Am.The.End noted that you are "not that kind of guy" - it is interesting that people posting on your thread have the word "end" in their usernames...), she might even appreciate your trying EVEN if you do not end up igniting flames. But she might still appreciate your attempt, for it shows that you have tried.