It is indeed Captain Transference playing his wily old tricks again.
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Originally Posted by Mastodon
I don't think I have a fraction of the strength that many of the rest of you display.
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No way am I letting this go unchallenged. Mastodon, wow. I would never have said this about you. What a harsh judgement to pass on yourself when you've been suffering so much lately.
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Originally Posted by granite1
I was wondering what was on the list you made about what your T did and said to show you that you matter?
I tried this and for right now cant think of anything.only that she hates me
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I will share if it's going to be helpful, but I'm concerned it might not be? Because telling you stuff about my T isn't going to clear away the transference you're having with yours... (ie the thing that claims she hates you)
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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans
This notion that the financial transaction somehow cheapens the sincerity of a T's care for her/clients (this is kind of the same way we talk about sex work). This is a bit unfair really. Do you think nurses and teachers and caregivers have no feelings for the people they look after?
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You're preaching to the choir with me - personally I never exactly saw my T relationship this way, though many posters say this, which is why I mentioned it. You make great points though! For me it was more a case of believing he wasn't bothered, that he thought turning up and sitting in the room and saying any old rubbish would suffice. That's what transference tells me. So it's not about the financial relationship so much as believing he doesn't think he has to work for it. I do believe he works for it, very much, but sometimes I lose that belief.
My T says I sometimes lose the image of the good-enough therapist because I need someone to trust and I don't have a template for that. So I started asking myself what template I DO have.