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Originally Posted by ultramar
Just because, from a certain point of view, it's not your fault, doesn't mean that on some level some responsibility cannot be taken for behavior that hurts others. I think it can be understood, but owned at the same time. And with room for compassion for those on the other side. No one is under any obligation to 'put up' with those with bipolar disorder just because of the disorder. Relationships are a two-way street.
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He does own his behavior and he knows what he puts me through. But knowing and being able to stop it are two different things. I knew what was going on with him before I married him. I do not feel obligated to "put up" with him or his behavior. I do it because I love him and because it can get better. Our relationship is a two-way street...we just have a very loud third wheel sometimes. When he is calm he is very good to me and a fantastic dad to my kids. I just have very few people to talk to who understand what having that disorder means. It helps just to be able to vent.
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When the world says, "Give up". Hope whispers, "Try one more time".
You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.
Wife of Husband with Ultradian Bipolar 2 Disorder & OCD (currently unmedicated)
Me: Survivor of Domestic Abuse and currently Fighting Depression
Medication: Bupropion HCL 300 mg
Our journey has just begun.
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