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Old Aug 04, 2013, 12:12 AM
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster View Post
Well, he responded with: "I'm impressed by your open-mindedness.

I'm also intrigued by your memory. What's your earliest vivid recollection?"

That is pretty good, in my book - deep and non-standard enough. But the thing is, it is true that I have a good memory, but how did he guess that? The profile is silent on that; the message I sent him (the whole message read "sure", which was meant to confirm my openness to age ranges) had nothing to do with memory/recall whatsoever. So now it is my turn to be INTRIGUED!

I did reply with the recollection of a migraine attack at a very young age - back then, I got euphoric once the pain would let up (after many hours of unbearable suffering). Now, I just get tired. So I explained that it was probably the intensity - the combination of very intense pain followed by very intense euphoria - that seared those early recollections into my memory.

So we will see.

What I do not get AT ALL is how you got no responses. I mean:

1) I was the first sexual partner with oral sex only of my first boyfriend (a guy my age who was also my first-ish sexual partner). So cool - I kind of blessed him for his subsequent love life. We were 19-ish, both.

2) I was - sort of jokingly - fully the first woman (with vaginal sex) of a guy who was then 40 and I was 26 (described above). Again, I feel good about it - it is true that all of that could have happened between us way earlier for the benefit of both of us, but whatever, at last it happened and I feel that I blessed him too (he eventually married, then after some fighting separated, but now will reunite with his wife, so he is doing well and I am glad).

3) Finally, there was a boy - my teacher's son - 5 years younger than me, who was in love with me the way such young boys are in love with adolescent girls (happened several times so I knew the pattern). I remember always being nice to him but nothing beyond that. Well, he told me several years ago (being by that time a bolding 30+ y.o. man) that I, actually, petted his head once, and it was his first erotic experience. I have absolutely no recollection of ever petting his head. Absolutely none. But OK - at any rate, if he has this recollection, it must have happened, so then I would count him in as well as somebody for whom I was the first woman (on some level, in some sense, etc. etc.). And I am glad - it must have eventually opened the door to his serious romantic relationships (he is not married, but has had a few girlfriends; he is very awkward and soft-spoken, but wonderfully smart and insightful).

OK, so (again, to qualify: on some level, in some sense, etc.) I have a trifecta of boys/men who hopefully have benefited from my being their first woman. So I am glad - I have not lived in vain. Clearly, neither of the three will ever forget me (I am on email with the latter two constantly; was out of touch with the first boyfriend for many many years, but did connect via a social network recently, on his birthday, and sent him a poem that he sent me many years ago (not his poem - just something deeply meaningful). He was very touched, expressed appreciation of the fact that I remembered the birthday, remembered the poem, etc.).

And you are basically offering to be the man who would always remember his first woman... and you have no takers. I am flabbergasted by this. It is beyond belief, to me.
Oh it is to me as well. I guess it goes back to the issue of "...how has this guy not gotten some at his age? Not even once? He must have some issues, or he's just a pathetic loser."

I had to edit my SocialSex profile because when it asked me about my sexual experience, I checked the category of "I'm a virgin, that's why I'm here." So many of the profiles I'm checking out say they want a guy who knows what he's doing or experienced. How do you get experience for free if no one wants to give it to you?