Jeff, I'm not sure if you were writing that for me or Moon, but I can sure relate to almost every word you wrote!! I do know that my T and I can't be friends when I quit, but I was hoping we'd exchange emails. Now I don't know if that will happen or not. When I think about it, it makes me very sad.

I'm sorry your T was not honest with you from the start. I don't think Ts are dishonest on purpose. They don't want to hurt us with what we don't want to hear right away. They think we'll get stronger and more independent as times does on. For some of us, that doesn't happen until we stop seeing them, though.

My T has always told me that her goal is to help me be happier in my real life, and not get that from her. Yet, I have always "forgotten" that statement because she did make me happy. Being in therapy still makes me more happy than unhappy, but the realization that it's "not about her" is very strong now. Maybe that's why therapy is kind of "blah" and I don't feel connected to my T. I agree with you that therapy is an escape and an addiction. It's very painful to have to give it up but at some point, that's what we all have to do.