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Originally Posted by FeelTheBurn
My guess is (and it is a guess, because I am still "working through") that, in exploring these feelings with your T, you will not eliminate them. Rather than denying or escaping from them, you will dive into them, discover their meaning for you, and find a way to assimilate them into your life. Working through them does not necessarily mean finding a way to eradicate them--rather, it's using them to discover more about yourself, and heal. And it sounds like your T has a good handle on how to help you do that.
I can't tell you what they will mean to you, but I can tell you that my feelings for my T have shown me how to connect in a deep, profound, fundamental way with another human being, someone I trust and who has my best interests at the forefront, and liberated me from a lot of fear and restriction that interfered with my ability to connect with others in my life. I now feel much more capable of relating intimately with the people I care about in "real life." Yes, it can be frustrating, painful, and sometimes embarrassing to have those feelings, but if used wisely by both you and your T, they can be liberating and enormously helpful.
Good luck. Stay in touch here; it is a good place to vent and share safely. And please, if you are so inclined, let us know how it turns out!  |
Hi, FeelTheBurn, I read your posts from time to time, and appreciate your contributions to the community!
I particularly appreciate your sharing your experience and advising on my situation. At this moment, your thoughts on the meaningful and even beneficial part of the issue are so helpful. Although I am still not sure if I can “work through it” in a meaningful way, I can’t thank you enough for that.
I do believe that my T has a good handle on how to help me working through the feelings. But my fear of facing the transferential issue is largely derived from the intense nature of my therapy – a trauma work based on sexual violence and the related issues. This nature makes the issue much harder to deal with from both sides of the therapy. The reason that I have gone this far is the deep connection and trust I built up through the difficult work in the past two years. But it could also be quite fragile for various reasons. I would be happy to talk about it via PM if you care to listen.
I will certainly come here often to share with and learn from you and other friends.
