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Originally Posted by cool09
Relationships with parents is one the strangest type of relationships. At what point do they stop telling you what you should and shouldn't do? I don't think it ever ends and you wind up never getting past certain things for years and years and the relationship becomes stagnant. And they act like the outside World doesn't exist and shouldn't have an effect on you. When you tell them about something in the real World that's effected you in some monumental or superficial way they seem startled and don't know how to react. It's odd.
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Originally Posted by cool09
My point is parents are always way too tense about everything. I'm 49 and I can still tell when something I do or say frustrates or disappoints them without them saying a single word. Or you get certain looks (or absent looks) which makes things uncomfortable. I don't tell them how to live their lives or what to say. I expect the same. And they are not realists the way I am. Everything they say is sugar-coated (which gets under my skin) and they refuse to talk about truth. In recent years my manic-depression (for one reason or another) has caused me to stay away from family members. It's never been a functioning relationship due mainly to my mood disorder. It's just all odd to me.
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I get what you mean.
Not every parent, has the ability to grow, as their children grow into adulthood. You mention that it's never been a functioning relationship due mainly to 'your' mood disorder. I am not often convinced, that the brunt of dysfunction in relationships, rests solely on mood disorders or one individual, alone.
Sounds like, your life, is met with judgment, opinions and reactions that are less than conducive, to your feeling like it's anything but odd.