You seem a little bit hung up on putting labels on yourself. I'm saying this based on your post and also your choice of user "genderqueerbpd". If I had to put a label on myself, the first thing I would say wouldn't be my gender or my ADHD. To me, those are aspects of who I am, but they don't define me. You're a person outside of being trans and having BPD too. You're just a person who happens to have BPD and who happens to have a gender identity that is different from your birth sex. Yes, it is an extremely important part of who you are as a person, but it isn't your entire definition. Maybe I'm wrong to suggest that you are thinking that way, but I just wanted to say that in case.

There is also no such thing as "not trans enough". Some women are actually men, some men like to cross dress, some men were born as women and still enjoy dressing as a woman. These labels are just that: labels. All they do is categorize people so they can be identified in an easier way. They aren't rigid definitions that you must follow in order to have value. Don't let yourself get so obsessed with labeling yourself that you stop yourself from being who you are and doing what you love.