I talk to my dad and my sister on the phone a few times a week. Since I live in a different state, I fly home to see my dad every Thanksgiving, every Christmas, and every year on his birthday. When my schedule permits, i will stay a full two weeks over x-mas or over the summer (his bday is in August). My sister and I coordinate out schedules so that we visit our dad at the same time. My sister and I also visit one another about once a year. Every few years, the three of us will take a vacation together. For us, this amount of contact and visitation is good. It was always expected that my sister and I would move away for college, grad school, and job opportunities, so living in another state has not been an issue. My dad would be quite upset if we didn't visit, but we also have the financial means to visit so that has not been an issue. We rarely see any of our other relatives though; we're just the three musketeers.