I'm not sure I can answer your question, but I do know that not being attuned to mind games doesn't make you a dunce. Mind games are played by people who want something without coming out and asking for it. I'm sorry it results in paranoia for you. It's a shame we have to put up with games people play. Thankfully, there are a lot of people who don't play games. These are the ones I would seek out if I were you. The ones without an agenda. That's why I like this site.
Best wishes
Gayle