I'm going to wade in here...Speed. My children's father was emotionally abusive and graduated to physical abuse. After the 3rd episode of physical abuse I left. And I have experienced the loss of a child. My youngest died on Nov 1, 2010 and my oldest died six months ago today. Thank God I'm away from their father. The death of a child is so traumatic that life seems not worth living sometimes. I think of my boys every day. There is no way I will condone your husband's behavior but he probably is grief stricken also. That does not excuse his behavior. I'm concerned about your safety. Always keep money in your purse, and keep your keys and purse where you can grab them quickly if his behavior scares you. I'm concerned that your husband may escalate from verbal to physical abuse. I just want you to keep safety a priority.