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Originally Posted by Bill3
You asked why you deserved support, what have you done to deserve support.
My own personal response follows.
Liking someone is not "deserved". When I like someone, it just happens naturally and feels natural. The person does not "earn" it or "deserve" it; it just happens. When it happens, it doesn't change just because, let's say, the person does SI or does not meet goals. Of course I want the person not to SI and I want the person to meet their goals, but I still like them, and want to support them, even if they do SI and even if they don't meet their goals.
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Deserve is such a huge word for me. Thank you for bringing it up. In my dbt class we had to do sentence completion with it, and I was like, but I dont know what it MEANS - not in a positive sense. I deserve walls to come crashing down, or a date to be cancelled, but I didnt deservr a reward for working hard at something. And for sure I didnt deserve help just because I needed it. So that dbt exercise really pointed out a hole in my vocabulary and in the way I viewed myself. This is why we say chairperson, not chairman now!