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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I realize, something like what I am about to recommend, may not be admissible in a courtroom, but could be used, to show your attorney, if and when you do ever decide to leave him. And I would advise, being very careful, that he were never to discover this. But a digital voice recorder, could come in handy, to 'prove' the verbal abuse that you endure.
I find, lots of times, there are those in society, that feel that people exaggerate the reality of verbal abuse, and the reality is, that once you play back, these recordings, it can show, beyond a shadow of a doubt, what you are enduring. They range, as cheap as $20-30 and can go higher in price. If your computer, isn't key logger traced and you have the ability to have privacy on it, you can upload these recordings. Or even upload, at the library to a USB or an external hard drive, that you could/should keep in a safe place.
If you don't know, if your home computer is key logged, there are free on-line software tutorials that can help you identify this type of monitoring!!
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Hi, sorry for the slow response. I've been busy with a few temp jobs lately. I'm going to look for a job tomorrow. They're hiring at a store near me for a stock job which would be great for me. Anyways, I know that recordings won't be admissible in court. At least a domestic violence counselor and a lawyer will then know what I'm up against. I can hide my phone pretty well.
He rarely looks directly at me when he is really angry. I'm careful, so I'll never be found out. Anyways, I'm going to look for a domestic violence counselor and look into job training this week or as soon as tomorrow. I'll make an appointment to come in as soon as I can. I need to be prepared for the worse.
I'm a bit worried and confused about the way that things are going now. He gave me a break on housework and didn't yell at me since I was on my period. Also, he surprisingly gave me more money that I expected him to after I told him that $100 a week where we live barely covers the expenses for food and gas! So he gave me $240 the other day! On top of that, I made $75 from my temp jobs for about an hour of doing really easy work-
I'm going to try to save as much as I can when I can.
Hopefully he'll keep on doing this. What worries me is that he's in the process of looking for a new place for his company since the company that he used to work for (that works with him sometimes) needs the space for their stuff. He has to move he said since the lot costs ten million dollars and he of course doesn't have the money to pay that amount. The company that he used to work with is in the same line of work as his current business. They're expanding and it's a big and well established company.
I sure hope that this is just a coincidence and that it doesn't mean that he's trying to get "rid"of assets. Things are fine for now, but I'm not counting on things to be good on a long term basis. I have to take one step at a time and for now I'm stuck. I wish that I would've done this a lot sooner. I'm so glad that we don't have any kids!
Perhaps he might treat me a little better once I get a job, who knows? When I do start making my own money, he's not going to be able to control me as much for certain! What I end up making, I'm keeping! I won't even let him know how much I make! My bff says that I can file separately for taxes. She's an accountant. Is that true? Thanks again to you and everyone else for all of your help and advice!
Angie