No offense, but the guy sounds like a manipulative jerk. It's hard to explain exactly what he did to you without coming off cruel - but he used you. He's obviously a player and a faker from what it sounds like. I'd be skeptical of the whole ex fiance thing as well. And just because he deleted his Match.com - doesn't mean he didn't just join another site so you wouldn't notice. Delete him off facebook, delete his phone number and avoid him. He's a bad influence on you from what I can tell. He dated you, then made an excuse to break up with you like "i'm not ready?" - that was a lie, to let you off easy so that if he ever wanted to go back at you for a quick something-nothing, he could squeeze in easily because you'd still feel for him, and feel sympathy towards him because of his poor past. Be very weary of that one. You sound like a very nice, and very devoted lady - you can find so much better and you will. Good luck! and if you need someone to vent to more about this, I've got an inbox.