I have been married 45 years and am frustrated because my I have not been able to have intercourse with my wife for the past several years and I miss it badly. She has hormonal deficiencies and can't use gels and as result, her vagina is extremely dry and inflexible, so intercourse is ultra painful. She's consulted physician specialists but to no avail. I have had extramarital relationships for sex as I see no other way for me to have intercourse. I have kept this secret from her because I don't know how to present the idea, as I think she'd be unhappy. I'm unhappy doing it but enjoy sex. Are there any other options?