Hi,
We've had my step son with us almost 3 weeks for the holiday but last week, a few days before we were due to return him to his mother, we got a call to say she'd had an accident and died.
My step son is only four years old. We've explained that mummy has gone up to the stars and he understands he'll never see her again. Her funeral is due to take place in a couple of weeks time and I'm not sure if he should go. He's easily overwhelmed and there's going to be at least a couple of hundred people there. I'm concerned it'll be too much for him, the amount of people and all the sadness. His mum also had spoken to us a few weeks ago about her wish to protect him against this sort of thing so I'm not even sure she would want him there. My husband feels torn, he decided not to take him but to do our own thing here with him to celebrate her life and to say goodbye and I think this is a good idea, but after speaking to her mum today he's confused again because he thinks she wants him to go but I explained its not about anyone else.
What would you do?