Perhaps starting by telling hubby you spoke too quickly by saying you want a divorce and letting him know that you really want to work on the marriage thru marriage counseling. As gayle said, your current t would be able to give you a good referral to a marriage counselor that would work for both of you. good luck and take care. Perhaps you could start by looking at the positive things he does for you, no matter how small, handing you the salt over dinner, and pointing these things out in appreciation. a little goes a long way.