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Originally Posted by sammi22
Thanks all for the comments. I feel like an idiot! You are right. I feel played and was most likely played. I was played by a 27yr old. I'm 30 ha. All signs were there that he has been and is unavailable. Especially since he's my cousins best friend. Everyone even told me he wasn't ready for anything but like I said, I thought we had a connection. He sent me flowers on V-day, told me he missed me often, even went to the point of telling me he loved me but he was drunk when he told me that. Unfortunately I can't prevent the way I feel and my feelings continued with action. I think the fact that him telling me, when we were dating, that he didn't want to have sex because he hasn't since his fiancé passed away (like I said she passed away about 2 years ago) made me think I was special since all of a sudden he wanted to have sex. Now I'm thinking what if he regrets it?! I thought for sure he would want to talk about it since it was such a big deal in the past. Live and learn. Seriously! I will see him again at family parties/events. I'm just embarrassed by my actions. Yes arms crossed after sex. Once that happened I knew it was over...
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Yup, that's manipulative behavior. I had an ex do that as well - used a sob story about a dead ex fiance to get me to feel i was special and all that. the whole i miss you ******** and everything too. Turn him lose and good riddance. And don't feel bad about it - it's no loss to you, it's a gain - if you'd stayed together, he'd have manipulated you into being a lifeless doll he could easily cheat on and win arguments against. You're going to be much better off without this dude. Let his words go in one ear and out the other at any event you see him at...if you know he'll be at an event, bring a friend with you to keep you grounded cause he'll try several things to get back with you every now and again. Guys like this are bad bad bad. Good luck!