I haven't been on here in a really long time.

I married my Aspie. I am an NT. We have been seeing counselors for about a year now. They haven't been able to get thru to him. We started seeing a new one, and he told me flat out my husband can't connect to me emotionally. He doesn't understand how to, and may never understand how to even if I tell him specifically what to do.

Here is my dilemma. We have no sex life, but then a week ago he used me for sex. It was obvious. He left me so totally aroused I physically hurt. He hasn't touched me since. I have told him how to make up for this. I have explained how much he hurt me. He has done nothing. He just shuts down.

I just found out my father has a serious health issue. He is going to see an oncologist later this week. They think he has cancer. This is very heart breaking for me because I am very close to my father. I looked to my husband to talk to him. I told him exactly what I wanted, and I didn't get it.

I am so upset. I am upset my husband would just do nothing, even after I have specifically told him what I need and what to do. I am upset because of what is happening with my father. What do I do?

I was always told to be very specific. As of late, he has totally quit communicating with me. It was my birthday, and he did nothing. I am on Fb and belong to some closed and private groups. They have all told me if this is how he is, I will not be able to count on him, and I need to find a different support network. How do you not count on your husband?

He is so totally lost in his own world. We haven't had any kind of intimacy is going on four weeks, unless you count how he used me. He has said he is sorry, but yet he hasn't touched me. I can't take being ignored by him. I need to figure out how to get thru to him that if his behavior doesn't change I am going to divorce him. And yes, I have told him that exactly like that.

He works a seasonal part time job. I work full time, and I pay the bills, and he still keeps his own private savings account along with the joint account. I never know what money he has coming or going because he doesn't communicate with me. I take care of everything it feels like, and when I ask specifically for help he may or may not help me.

We just had the conversation that I need him to communicate with me, show me some kind of emotion and affection daily, and I need intimacy. We have only been married a little over a year. We have been together about five. He has totally stopped trying since we've been married. I have needs as a women. Pardon my language, but him taking care of his needs in the bathroom and ignoring me isn't helping our relationship.

How do I get thru to my husband he is tearing our marriage apart?!