Have you clearly told him your needs? Is his behavior different since you married? You need to be able to state your needs clearly and calmly. From what you say, it sounds like he is in total control of your relationship. Is this how you want to live? Aspie's are different. I have an Aspie daughter. Aspie's arent for everyone. You have some serious conversations and decisions to make. I sent good thoughts and a calm mood to help you through this.