My only relatives live far away (about 230 miles) and they are very poor at keeping in touch. They dont bother with each other close by either so it isnt me personally. They were like this with my father most of his life, we always had to visit them as a family when I was small. In the last few years of his life the situation was still the same. When he passed away they hadnt seen him for a year and he of course visited them that last time. He was his sisters favourite too so it makes no sense. I sometimes think that they are neglectful with me because this is how they are and also I remind them of him, being very like him in many ways and I also remind them that they were not there for him in his illness. For a large traditional family I feel its a shame and they havent learned a thing.