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Originally Posted by PAYNE1
Hello and welcome to Psych Central, unkownusername! I'm sorry the responses are slow.
I only know what you are telling me, of course, but I suggest you try to be more tactful and discerning in sharing "the truth" with people if you do want to get along with people better. I can assure you that being too blunt about matters is not the way to "win friends and influence people," as a book by Dale Carnegie is titled. I'm not exactly saying to lie.
Would you mind giving some examples of how you have responded to people this way under what circumstances? Then I can provide more feedback.
People prefer compliments, of course. Say if a girl asks, "Do you think my red hair is pretty?" and you think it's the ugliest hair you have ever seen, it's not a great idea to come out and say that. Perhaps one response that might work would be: "Well, I would prefer to see you with a different color. I think auburn would really bring out the color in your eyes."
As far as getting some help with your other matters, I suggest you check out our Depression forum and our Addictions forum.
We do have other teenagers here, by the way.   |
The problem is that when I do talk to girls its usually not about that kinda stuff, more school work and all that kinda stuff, though I have started a youtube channel that has done some vids with other channel(people I didn't know) as almost practice for this next year and see where it gets me after a month or two. Any advice I can get is well appreciated as I'm pretty much lost. And one thing I should mention is that I have a few friends at home but because of me boarding I don't usually get to hang out with them and I can't really make more time during the time I do get free because my mum (who is controlling and has this phrase "May be you should" that she says every time I come home for the weekend that means I don't get to do what i feel like doing. But hey any more advice is appreciated and I think I will check out the addiction and depression forums later.