My husband and I hit a wall a few years ago , snippy and both of us just over the marriage and felt that the other deserved better. Financially there just wasn't a way for one of us to move out or afford couples counseling So we had to find a way to handle it...

We Both agreed that we both needed space and that we would simply be kind to each other.. Being kind in any interaction made us both realize that basic kindness had been missing for awhile. Over the span of 3-4 months we were able to start talking about the problems we had. At that point the immediate anger has faded enough for us to deal with all the things that built up and boiled over.

We are fine now , even better than before. I know we got lucky.

I hope you can find a way to be happy together again.