Hey everyone,

This is my first post..I finally decided I need to hear other peoples view on whats been bugging me for so long. Thanks to all who read and take the time to reply.

Here we go...I have been dating this girl for 4 months now and when we first started dating I was head over heels in love with her. One night we were hanging out and something was on TV that somehow brought up the conversation of our "past". When asked about my past I bluntly said "I dont want you knowing my past or me knowing yours, nothing good can come of it, the only thing I cant deal with is if I have a girlfriend who has a history like this slut I knew in high school, She circle-jerked 4 guys in grade 9".....right after I said that my girlfriend tells me..."well, I had a similar experience but it was 3 guys and we left our clothes on...there was just touching and kissing, no orgasms or anything like that and i didnt touch them"

I find this hard to believe, what girl wants 3 guys to just "touch her" at the same time....what do 6 hands do down there that 2 cant?...I find it even harder to believe you can find 3 guys who just want to kiss a girl and rub her vagina at the same time 2 other guys are and not get anything in return...especially when they are in their 20s and alll sexually expeirenced...seems very highschoolish and odd....i just find it hard to believe that, that is all that went on. ....why bother telling me she did that literally seconds after I called the other girl I knew a slut for pleasuring 4 guys at once. she claims she "needed to get something out of her system....I have been asked to "Tag team" a girl with different buddies on numerous occaisions...but always said no cause easy girls just disgust me.


It took me a while to decide if I wanted to try dating her or not...and I gave it a chance...for some reason I find that anytime we have sex the thought of this experience goes away for a bit...but then we started going 1 or 2 weeks before having sex again and I kept thinking "what did they do or other guys do that im not doing" .... to be honest she has no ambition when we are having sex....anytime she is on her period she bluntly says...."sorry, we cant do anything for a while" ... I would go down on her and give her oral and she never seemed to return the favour...we would just go into sex....I told her that I have needs and asked her if shes afraid or grossed out with giving blowjobs...she said no.....its been 4 months and I have yet to receive one aside from a tiny bit of action to get me up before sex...I have been going down on her alot...ill admit I like giving her oral so its not like I feel like im doing a chore or anything....but we started fighting cause I said I cant get these images out of my head when you barely want to touch me except when we have strictly sex....I have not encountered a girlfriend with a sexual past like hers and also never encountered a girlfriend who wont "help her guy out" the odd time while shes on her period. all the other times she says shes tired from work or not feeling good....but she always felt good enough to go out for dinner to restaurants and eat crappy food...I feel like shed rather eat then have some intimate time with me.

Am I selfish for feeling this way...I find i forget about her past when we have sex...but then we go right back into a drought and fight over the same thing....the last time we made up she told me she talked to her mom for advice...and even her mom agreed with me and told her I have needs and she needs to address them.....everything was all lovey dovey again the last time we made up...but we are right back in the same hole...Ive told her at least 5 times I am sexually frustrated so its not like she doesnt know whats been bugging me....I just dont know anymore....I cant put a ring on someones fingers whos had a threesome... I know she said it was just touching....but I just cant believe it...and when she tells me shes a nympho when we first had sex I was somewhat put back but excited at the same time.....yet we havent had sex more than once a week.....this is the most confused I have been with a women EVER!...we have a trip to new york coming up and I really need to make a decision before this trip as wether or not to stay with her. She said I could even ask her friend if i wanted...but to be honest...shes her friend..shes gonna back her up no matter what...and not to be rude...but I wouldnt trust her friend anyways...she had a boobjob so she could work at hooters and collect good tips...I have no respect for any women who modifies their body for a financial gain or for attention from multiple men.....im really stuck....help