One thing to remember is that you are having a relationship with your BF, not his family. I know that is easy to say because the family will always be around but hopefully in time they will come to accept you.

How does our BF act when you are treated like this? Does he just ignore his family and act like it is your problem or does he stick up for you? My father came from a very ethnic background and married a very American girl. His family had a wake when they found out. When they were at his family's house they spoke in Italian about her. My father would translate everything they said for my mother. He also made it clear he would not tolerate them mistreating her. When I was growing up my father argued with his family while he was supporting his "half-breed" kids. Before my grandmother died she told my mother she was the best thing that ever happened to the family.

If you BF is not supportive of you I would tell him you need him to be. If he does not change, he is no better than his family. It may be time to move on. Good luck.