So I had this friend...who i cared a lot about...we spoke every day, from morning till late at night. He would hit on me sorta and lead me on...I'd kinda ignore it...but then he'd outright saying he wanted to date me, which put the consideration into my head...but then in the morning he'd always be "Forget what i said last night, i didn't mean it" and it would keep going on all the time. When we'd hang out in person, he'd want to be the only guy around me...he'd shoo away other guys or intimidate them away from me....and act like he liked me...but then deny it. I'd confront him about his flip-flopping words and he'd make several excuses. By then I'd already become interested in him...and he kept doing this same "I want you, you're the only person I like" and in the morning, he'd freak out, push me away...and make excuses and say we'd never work. Finally at this one event we were hanging out, I said "you know what, you're right, we're really not compatible in that capacity, but we make fantastic friends". then a few nights later he posted something on facebook and i was just like "Have fun mate" and he messages me "Are you being passive aggressive?" and i'm like "How...do you get that from that?" and he's like "well you haven't spoken to me in two days" (i was sick and sleeping most of those two days)....i tell him that, and he's like "no, no, you're disappoined we're not compatible" and i'm like "but i'm not." - i wasn't... I didn't care anymore, I mean the last time we hung out i felt nothing towards him like that, i was actually pretty bored and wanted to go hang out with other people instead (course i didn't tell him that, didn't want to hurt his feelings)...and he kept demanding i be upset over it...got to the point where he screamed "I REGRET KNOWING YOU" at me... i was like "what the hell" and in the morning, he apologized and said to forget it....then it continued...now instead of hitting on me every evening, he was accusing me of being upset or demanding I be disappointed we're not compatible... finally I'd had it. i was like "this is over. you can't take back the cruel **** you've said, or all this flip flop behavior between day and night. i can't handle it anymore. I'm gone"

Now he's trying to turn all our mutual friends against me... I haven't said a word to any of them, but he's apparently been talking.... In the past when stuff like this has happened... I just cower away and let the other person win...I never stand up for myself...BUT i don't want to lose my friends this time... yet I don't want them thinking badly of him or choosing sides....i mean yeah our friendship is over - but I don't wish bad things to happen to him....but if i talk...bad things will happen to him...but if i keep quiet, bad things will happen to me....what should I do? I don't want to lose my friends again.