The father wants to have his son full time. My opinion of this is that he wants his trophy to show off. My nephew tells me that his dad won't play with him or spend time with him, and every visitation this year has consisted of the father taking my nephew to visit other family or having cousins come play. There is, as far as I can tel, no one on one time. The dad takes visitation whenever it is convenient for him. He moved 4 hours away for work, and visits on weekends. The first part of what you said really made sense, I have never heard that terminology before so I'll look into it, thank you. As far as me forcing conversation, I am required to communicate with him about visitation, health, etc. (Although he usually delegates that to his new wife). Believe me, if I could cut off contact, I would.