I agree. Last night my therapist said "I am sure if you could erase it you would" and I told her I would not because then I'd have a different person than the one I am in love with now.

My therapist was less than helpful last night. She basically told me to just get over it, then my fiance came in with us and my therapist told us to learn what makes the other one feel secure and focus on doing those things and not just doing for the other what makes us feel secure. As we left my fiance and I talked about this and agreed to work on it. I told her the things she says and does that make me feel most secure and vice versa and we said we'd each try to do those things more.

I got the impression that my therapist is used to approaching dysfunctional couples. She started talking about love languages and how to share time equally and how to avoid fights and my fiance and I both looked at each other and rolled our eyes because they were all things we already do.

My therapist did not give me a lot of tools to deal with the snooping compulsion. She just said to try to think of us together or focus on our future to distract myself. I feel ok about it right now because my fiance and I have been very close for the past few days as we have been navigating some difficult issues in my family and some potential health problems I am having. Hopefully this feeling will keep the temptation at bay for long enough for me to get some real long-term clarity and finally overcome this. I think if I can keep out of her private information and avoid learning anything new or revisiting the things I already know the feelings of jealousy and discomfort will fade, but I need to be diligent and strong to keep myself from giving in to self-destructive behavior.