Thanks for sharing more about your challenges. What helped me was acceptance - accepting this stage is awful, but with hope it might change. Accepting doesn't mean giving up and it helps so the persons no longer resisting the pain. What happens is most try to resist the pain..... but don't have immediate solutions and this ends up being a never ending circle of frustration.
Yes those tribes you mentioned are noted to be very happy and content. They're also disconnected with the modern existence. They also don't have time to let their minds be idle and too busy with survival. I can't remember where I read the story of a person who was all down about life, but then they had a serious accident. At that moment the person forgot about all the life problems and now was worried about merely surviving.
What I've learned through my pain is, life isn't all about money, status and accumulation of excess materialism. Yes we need basic comforts but minimalist living is more appealing to me now. If you live below your means you don't have to work as hard and can devote more time to doing what you want.
Since you don't have fulfillment at work -maybe think out of the box. Is there anything that stirs passion in you -if yes then look for work in that field. Finding daily life mundane? - mindfulness helps. Saw a lady talking about how she was bored being a mother - she started working on mindfulness and realized the value of doing simple things like dishes and laundry. Those clean dishes and clean clothes made her kids well cared for therefore there was value in those simple chores. A member here mentioned "honor" the other day - we can apply honor to simple things - like are we honoring our living place or our health/bodies. Are we honoring ourselves with negative thinking.
You can also look for things that don't cost a lot of money - perhaps art work or writing. Often the simple things make us feel happy - walking in a nice garden. Helping or making a difference in another persons life. When a person hits the bottom - they either give up or find some kind of solution. I don't have all the answers but do know what intense pain feels like.
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