Thanks, anneo, I think what you say is the thing that I most need to make myself believe. Yes, the detaching is challenging. I have to make myself do it . . . like, just go out for the mail, even if neighbors are there at the same time . . . and just say to myself that I won't die if someone says something hurtful, or is unfriendly.

Thanks, hankster, I do try to be pleasant to neighbors when I fun into them. My immediate neighbor has really stressed me out with alternating between being friendly and hostile toward me. Maybe, I just need to see that as her problem. I would never do to anyone what she has done to me.