Well, I do not know - have you asked 3 girls and failed? is it based on experience or pure conjecturing?

I can tell you this. I have not had sexual moresomes (but plan to, eventually, with several men, not out of an interest in being penetrated in unusual ways or any of that stuff, since I, in general, do not have that much interest in the genital aspects of sex, but out of an interest to explore the dynamics of relating to those men and seeing the dynamics that would be sparked between them), but when I was in 4th grade, several boys - I do not remember the actual number... probably 4, but they were all my classmates, next door neighbors, buddies, and friends, mind you, and not some kind of older sexual perverts) - locked me in a room and all started to kiss me. I did fight and got out, but, truth be told, I liked it. So that kind of tells me that it might be a good thing to be locked in a room with several guys...but, it was not a sexual moresome - it was exactly as I described, nothing more and nothing less.

...can you, for a second, entertain the possibility that your GF was freaking truthful and told you exactly what happened, nothing more and nothing less? Can you give her a little respect and just believe her words and not spend days picturing something else - something other than what she described?

I also very much agree with Pfrog in that the information the GF provided was extracted from her in a manipulative fashion. As such, it is a "fruit of a poisonous tree" and should best be forgotten.

I do however sympathize with the plight of a man who works long hours doing physical labor, does try his best giving oral sex, and does not get his needs met. That by itself is well worthy of compassion.

Now comes the most important point of this post that, hopefully, does not come across as a diatribe.

The most important point is:

"PLEASE stop being so freaking arbitrary. Please do. This is so annoying when people are arbitrary and do not see that. It is just... well... not something that makes my day."

You said that you had a one night stand. And you know, I have not! I have never ever had a one night stand. Never! Never ever! So I am far purer than you are - far purer. And far more capable of forming long lasting attachments. And... and... well, just better - I am just, simply, better than you are. Better on all grounds and on all counts. I am better than you in that you had a one night stand and I have never had a one night stand. OK?

Do you see that one can criticize YOU for your one night stand just as you are criticizing HER for her more-than-one-guy-at-a-time experience? It really is horrible that you had a one night stand. It shows that you are a shallow person unable of deep relating. Shame on you!

Do you see where I am going with this? Saying that an experience with more than one guy at a time is somehow UNUSUALLY HORRIBLE BEYOND ANY REASONABLE MEASURE - this is what you have been saying - is exactly akin to my saying that having a one night stand is UNUSUALLY HORRIBLE BEYOND ANY REASONABLE MEASURE.

The unifying factor is that you are being arbitrary in viewing her experience with more than one man, and I am being (jokingly, as I hope you can see) arbitrarily "chastising" you for your one night stand.

If you take time to think about it - for one second, as that would be enough - then you would see that there is nothing extraordinary in what she did.