The past IS the past so why worry about it. People change, not like she needs to change or anything, but you are putting too much on sex!!!It isn't everything in a relationship, it's the little things that matter, sweet somethings in her ear sincre ones.How can you tell her you love her if you don't, you need to let her go and i'd hate to be the one to tell you it will take alot, but i will and you may have a hard time when the time comes along to really seperate.