I can sympathize with your birthday issues. I hope your husband decides to opt for sushi or thai. It isn't that expensive and it may make you feel cared about. I think part of being in a relationship with someone is giving in to their wishes. No two people will have everything in common and have all of the same likes. While quite often people can find compromises to make everyone happy, getting your way once a year is not out of line.

I try not to celebrate my birthday. I usually get really depressed around that time of year. To make things worse I found out on my birthday that my father wasn't my biological dad and that kind of thing screws with you. It happening on my birthday gives me a stark reminder every year that I was a mistake. Then my father also passed away a week after my 18 birthday so I get that rolling around and weighing on my thoughts as well.

While it is not the norm, I don't find anything wrong with you wanting to spend your birthday doing what you want to do, even if it is being alone, as long as you are ok with it. Usually around my birthday I get withdrawn, depressed and am not in the mood to celebrate. That is just me though. For better or for worse, it seems as I get older birthdays seem to be less important and less thought about.