oh adam, that is so not fair. It sounds like your wife used you and made pregnancy a reality. That is a dirty way to control a situation and make someone stay married to you or set ones self up for a financial tie for 18 years.

This is her doings not the childs. He/she is a defenseless creation brought in to the world. one who is innocent, and didn't asked to be delivered into poor circumstances. You can only do the best you can for this child. Every ounce of love you give a child your receive back 3 fold. They are true blessings. (until they become teenagers)

Now you just have to do the best you can to prepare yourself mentally for this baby. Have you spoken to the T about this. That might help. You don't need me to tell you yall gotta fix yalls relationship stuff before this baby gets here, Stress affects kids in powerful ways. I have 3 munchkins. Two of them are in T because of me and my H's crap. They never asked fr the hand they got delt either.

Hopefully this baby will be the greatest gift you have ever received, and will bring you peace and happyness and a new zeal for life.