hi jamie. how are you now? If you have spent a lot of good time at home, and any other places, except at work, near your crush, then your crush will vanishes. You would have no more energy and time to muck around, nor waste. Only you can make yourself happy. Your wife, yourself and few different marriage counsellors will help you a lot. I Hope you will get well again soon. My problem is similar to yours, but, there are 2 fundamental extra problems:
first, she reciprocated possitively, and very clearly.
secondly, half of me wants to accept this blissful beautiful angel, as she has been constantly in my mind. But, the other half of me tells me try to "forget about it". Our age difference is too much. i have never married, and always waiting and dream about a partner in my life similar to herself. When the dream comes, She is too young for me. She is my half the dream. I may be holding her back from very promising world, which is in front of this very beautiful, inteligent, healthy, popular angel. My heart is hurt every time i saw her sad eyes looking at me. I want to have a girl of minimum 25 year old, and not younger than that. i still do not know what to do.