hi silar. i totally agree the solutions that "demeanor" suggested. However, i also would like to take time to explain and show exactly what you have been feeling to each of them, the boy and the mother. You should be very assertive, slowly, persistently and honestly talk to them as much as possible. That the win and win situation for all three of you to live, learn, share and grow, happily. I hope i am correct. Hi Demeanor, your name is exactly contradictory to your smart lovely caring heart.