Radio Flyer, I completely understand. Is it unethical? I don't know. It was definitely unprofessional of him, that's for sure.

Please put aside your own feelings of guilt (hope I'm not reading too much into it). I understand why you question yourself, but you gave your T very valid reasons for your own behavior.

So, since I gather that this happened several years ago, would it be comfortable to you to conclude that he was unprofessional? Unless you're upset at HIS behavior, then I don't see the point in planting doubt in your head about his ethics.

I'm willing to be 100% wrong about what I said above, but those are my first thoughts. I might change my mind later after I've thought more on it.

Hang in there,
LMo