Hi, I think that cutting your family off may be a bit drastic. However, developing some more independence (like paying your own phone bill, for example) will help your self-esteem. You are young and still getting to know who you are - you are unique and special in your own way. There is no cookie-cutter type of a successful person, IMO, although society oftentimes paints that impression. I did the law school thing, law career and that whole route - and I'm just as human as anyone else and have a lot of my own issues.

Try and embrace yourself for who you are. I think going to school will be a great experience for you and give you the independence you need. It sounds like you need space from your family - but it also sounds like you are having some "black and white thinking" ... having family can be a good thing, despite their faults. Give yourself some time and enjoy getting to know you! Take care.