oh oh oh okay, I didn't mean to erase parts of her life, I what I meant was faarrrr more innocuous than that. As in, if I tell someone about riding a really neat rollercoaster at an amusement park I don't talk about what year or who I was with or even really who was sitting next to me if it's not relevant to my point. I simply say "Yeah, I rode that and it nearly tore my shirt off!" You just have to pick through what is relevant or necessary at the time. I'm not saying to selectively rewrite your history to make the person you are talking to more comfortable, but at the same time your history is about you as an individual and I prefer to talk to my experiences as being ME. I am sorry, I had the impression that OPs partner did this often but it seems that it is not a case.