I'm good at that. But, what good would it do to point out to her that my cycle is on the downswing? There's nothing I can do about it...

^ this .. I don't feel that it's hopeless ... I feel there are many things that can be done to help decrease the severity of episodes , maybe not all the time but.. I think its possible.

I thinking excessive over monitoring of our mood is unhelpful.

I don't feel the need to advise my spouse on my moods. Unless I am spinning off into a ugly Manic episode I don't see the point..

I usually do a check 30 second check on my overall mood once every few days. If I am upright and going about my life .. Then I am fine.