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Originally Posted by Simplysabian
My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months. I began hearing rumors that he cheated on me with his extreme beautiful ex girlfriend, so I began questioning him about it. Every time I did, he'd promise me that it wasnt true. (This happened 6-14 times) Shortly after, his ex girlfriend messaged me
And came clean about everything; the rumors were true. After showing him everything she said, he came clean. I'd like us to move forward together, but now I don't think he's sexually attracted to me and I don't think I'll ever be able to trust him again.
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You have two questions.
(1) Is he sexually attracted to you?
Probably, he is, since he has been dating you for eight months. Why would one date someone for that long without experiencing any attraction to that girl? It would have been bizarre. I mean, we cannot tell for sure, but the fact that he self-selected into the relationship, rather than was court-ordered to enter into the relationship with you, seems to imply that he is sexually attracted to you.
Since, in most cases though not all, a person can be sexually attracted to several people rather than one, simultaneously, and, sometimes in different ways, the fact that he had sex with his ex girlfriend does not rule out the possibility that he is still very attracted to you. That the girlfriend is very beautiful does not change anything.
So most likely, the answer is yes.
(2) would you be able to trust him again?
well, he lied for close to 14 times in an 8-month period. OK, so on average he would lie once every 2.5 weeks or so (I am estimating and not doing precise math). Do you think you could trust him ever again?..
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So most likely, the answer to this one is no.