Maybe someone has been through this and can give some advice.

My daughter will be getting married next year. She will be 26 and she wants a big wedding (disagreement 1). She and her fiance also just made an offer on a house which the buyer accepted and they are awaiting final bank approval (disagreement 2). She is employed and her job seems safe. Fiance is employed but seeking a better job or he will go back to grad school.

My H and I (but mostly me) have told her that we will contribute a small amount for the wedding but probably less than 20% of the total cost. I am also buying her wedding dress. She keeps bringing up how much the wedding will cost but we haven't budged. Did I mention we also helped with college costs?

She just mentioned today that they cannot afford the payments on the house on her salary alone. We have suggested that they wait on the house.

I have not harped but I cannot believe she is acting so dumb and spoiled (we have 5 children and she is the oldest). WE did not raise her like this. I feel badly because we are not doing more. We probably could do a little more but we think they could spend less on the wedding and the house. Her fiance will not say no to her.

I am afraid these disagreements will hurt our relationship. Daddy can say no without her getting mad, but I am the one she seems to take everything out on.

I guess I just wanted to vent. Sorry. In view of everyone else's problems but the anxiety on top of my depression has put me in a tailspin.