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Old Aug 10, 2013, 02:21 AM
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I tried reading this, but very soon stopped.

So, they are publishing letters from guys. and, publishing without edits - just true to the source with no changes... mistakes and all...

And the first letter says (I stopped reading after it):

First guy: About a month ago I decided to give up PMO. I ended up going 14 days total without masturbation. During this time my mood was never better. I've been going to a therapist to resolve my emotional issues but I was at the point where I cancelled appointments because I felt great and just wanted to continue feeling great. The next day I got a huge craving/thought about a porn actress that I liked and ended up binging. I never realised how addicted I was to porn until that day. It was a rush of "oh my god I need this right now" but the release I felt was incredibly empty.
I binged the next day and the emotional hell that I've experienced for years came back. I was incredibly surprised to realize that a lot of my emotional issues were related to stopping PMO so I tried another week. I gave a weak excuse and binged. This time old feelings of suicidal and despair came back. It was a nightmarish 3 days but I started my recovery again. It's been 9 days since PMO and I'm back to my balanced self. I don't have the social anxiety, or fear that something bad will happen to me, that I used to. My depression is gone and I'm not worried about anything. Things that would make me angry are now a thing of the past. I was at a local music show recently and someone shoved me while passing through. I ended up shoving them back and not worrying at all about the consequences. This confidence that I have feels great and can only get better with time. My goal is a full 8 weeks.


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First comment - I do not know what PMO is other than a Project Management Organization which, I KNOW, cannot possibly be the de-acronymization in the sense intended by this site. So it must be something else. Some private language accessible to the site's subscribers? I dunno... It is possible that P in PMO stands for Porn. I think it very well might.

So...a bit of analysis of this gem of English writing...

"During this time my mood was never better"

So, I would hope to have Harley, Hankster, and others who are native speakers of English (not necessarily with a userid that starts with a "Ha!") to opine on this with more confidence, but to me this phrase does not sound right. It is true that it is perfectly OK to say: "My mood has never been better", but not what this guy wrote. I am ready to stand corrected, though.

So...for now, I will assume that the guy who wrote this missive to the site is...just...towards the dumber side...

but in order to check with my intuition is right, I do a Google search in quotation marks:

"my mood was never better"

and only get 48 results.

Then I search on Google AGAIN, this time with the phrase as corrected by me above, "my mood has never been better",

and get 76, 100 results on Google.

So, thanks to Google, I am now feeling a bit more confident about my level of intuition when it comes to English expressions.

And that leads me back to suspecting that the guy who wrote this letter to the site's editors just is not particularly "with it" to begin with.

More to come in the very next two sentences, from which we learn that a guy has been in therapy for a while, but once he stopped masturbating for a period of two weeks, he felt great and immediately cancelled appointments with the therapist because of that great feeling.

Now, this is not about English anymore...no.

So, most people who have been in therapy for a while have a general understanding of how the therapeutic relationship is supposed to work. And, if they start feeling great, they are happy to share with their therapist that they are feeling great, realizing, of course, that a great feeling that has lasted for 14 days is just that... but still. They do not cancel appointments.

But this guy not only canceled appointments, but also wrote about the cancelation in a matter-of-factly manner as if anybody else were sure to see the connection between feeling good and canceling therapy.

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That is enough to appreciate that is source is completely and entirely bogus.

I have not read the whole thread but have scanned enough to realize that other posters have reached the same conclusion (that the source is bogus) by analyzing it based on its actual content.