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Neptune, I was composing an answer to you in my head, then I read Yellowted's reply. It says everything I was going to say. I really like the idea of having someone designated to watch over the little guy to take him outside or whatever to distract him if he becomes too overwhelmed. don't be surprised if he wants to play at some time during the viewing/funeral. Might seem like inappropriate behavior to adults, but it's not unusual for young children.
I also like the idea of letting the little guy have a say in what he does. If he doesn't want to go, then don't force him. If he wants to go, let him. If he wants see his mother in the casket, let him.
I'm fully in support of the idea of him seeing a grief counselor at the first sign he is having difficulty dealin with his mother being gone. BUT he might not need it. I would wait and see how he is doing.
One final thought, perhaps you could arrange his visit to the funeral home at a time when no one else will be there? Just a small quiet family gathering if you think he will be overwhelmed my too many people at the funeral.
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